--- title: You never listen! description: Everyone Communicates, Few Connect – Communicating and Leading for Results image: http://s3.amazonaws.com/cdn1.hubspot.com/StockImages/People%20Together/7K0A0438.jpg --- [![Home](https://info.westorg.org/hubfs/West%20August2017/Img/west%202016.jpg)](https://gwnew.memberclicks.net/home) # WEST Wisdom Blog ## You never listen! Posted by [WEST Board Member](https://info.westorg.org/blog/author/west-board-member) on Jun 1, 2017 1:00:00 PM - [Tweet](https://twitter.com/share) You never listen! How many times have you found yourself angrily whispering this statement under your breath to your partner? Or to your kids? If you are like me, there are multiple times a month when it just feels like you have been talking to a brick wall. And it is not just at home. There are even some days at work when I have the same sort of despairing feeling. Like when I have made valuable contributions to the discussion at meetings, only to have one of my colleagues repeat my words and then receive all the accolades for the brilliant suggestions. Or other days when I am trying to engage with my team to solicit input on an important change in project direction, only to see blank stares reflected back at me, accompanied by the deafening sound of silence. Ugh. Frustrating. So what are the secrets to not “just communicating” but to “communicating AND connecting” with others? What is the most powerful way to convey your message in order to get the results you seek? How can you convince people to put down their phones, or stop thinking about what they are going to cook for dinner, and instead have them listen intently to your message? Communicating with authority and authenticity sounds easy, but it can be a tricky for women in STEM disciplines especially. WEST (Women in the Enterprise of Science and Technology) is hosting a workshop just for you that will provide you with the tips and tricks to help you enhance your communication style and get the results you want. You will learn how to flex your communication style in ways that will inspire your colleagues to pay close attention to what you have to say, and in a manner that will motivate your team to spring into action with energy and enthusiasm without having to be nudged. Come and join us on June 6th to enhance your communication effectiveness, and to learn how to connect with your audience in a way that will reliably convert your messages into results! 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